I want to start this post with a disclaimer. YOUR BODY IS ALREADY PERFECT THE WAY IT IS. This post is not meant to encourage hateful thoughts about yourself. It’s to help those who want to grow as a person as well as have their exterior reflect their growth! To achieve your dream body you must first realize that you already have it! Counter intuitive right? If you believe that you are imperfect, that you are too fat, too short, too whatever- you will ALWAYS feel that way. Trust me, before I lost weight, I believed I was too fat and I hated myself for it. Right before my weight loss, I KNEW I was perfect. I ultimately just wanted to be stronger and more physically capable of activities I wasn’t before. I wanted to be able to not have to worry when invited out with friends if I was going to be able to keep up. Deep down, I loved going to parks, swimming, riding bikes, and other activities that were physically demanding. I just told myself I didn’t enjoy them because I was afraid of slowing everyone else down. Once I realized I could be the person who does all these things, I became that person! I lost 60 lbs and was able to finally able to keep up with my friends and even surpass them sometimes! So now that you believe you are perfect, and know you can become the person you’ve always dreamed of, here’s where to go next.
1. Find Your “Why Power”
This first step is so crucial I cannot emphasize it enough. You must find your “Why Power”. What I mean by that is you need to really find out why you want to do this in the first place. “Because I want to look thinner” is not an answer. Dig deeper. Ultimately, what is the root of you wanting to change your body. For me, I wanted to be able to have fun with my friends without the stress of being incredibly out of shape. Maybe that’s your reason too or maybe it’s something different. Maybe you’re doing this because you want to lower your risk of diabetes and heart disease. It could be a number of things or a combination! Whatever it is, it has to be deeper than something about the way you look. The reason this step is so important is because it will carry you throughout your journey. When you feel like quitting, this will be your reason not to.
I said this in my first post but here it is again. Mindset Mindset Mindset!! Your thoughts are what control your actions and you control your thoughts. If you think “I can’t do this, I’ll always be this way” I guarantee you always will be. However, you can change those thoughts and tell yourself you can do this, you will be able to run a marathon, swim 100 laps, lift 200 lbs, whatever your goal is. Even if you don’t believe it, you just have to fake it until you do. If you tell yourself enough that you can, soon you will believe it. Same is true about anything. Repeat something enough times to yourself and you will start to believe it! So watch your thoughts carefully and keep telling yourself that you are a strong and healthy person and soon you will be!
There are going to be some days when you just don’t want to do this anymore. It happens to all of us. We get unmotivated and just don’t feel like it and that’s okay! What is important is what we do with those days. You could A. Completely give up and say “screw this” and move on with you life, which is an okay choice. Just know nothing will change if you choose option A. Option B would be to give 100% percent of the effort you do have. Some days we only have 30% of energy to care, sometimes 50%, sometimes 100%. What’s important is do the best you can. First, start by revisiting your Why Power (remember I said this would come in handy!). Remembering why you started in the first place can be a huge motivator towards your goals, especially when you have a deep and personal reason. Once you remembered why you started, then do what you can. If you don’t feel like going to the gym (because to be honest, that’s a lot of effort) maybe just try doing 30 sit ups or something fun like who can hold the longest plank challenge with a friend. If you want ice cream really badly, maybe try nice cream (if you don’t know what this is, google it and your life will be changed). In the end if you can’t even bother with a compromise and you can’t stop yourself from eating a whole bag of chips, THAT IS OKAY!!! The biggest and most important thing is not to let that one bad thing ruin all your hard work. It’s okay to “slip up” or eat something bad every once in awhile. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Maybe try and think about why it happened and FORGIVE YOURSELF! Which brings me to my next point.
4. Support + Other Tools
Having a support team is so important. There were several times throughout my journey where I would struggle and having someone just to talk to who could empathize with me went a long way. If you don’t feel like you have someone you can talk to, there are soooo many facebook groups of like-minded people who would love to help you! You just have to reach out and find them. Pinterest also helped me with keeping my meals interesting. I used sooo many recipes from there. I’ll say, a lot of them tasted terrible (most likely from me not following the recipe) but it was a lot of fun! The biggest thing it helped me with was find healthy alternatives to the things I loved. Pasta was a huge part of my diet and I was able to find so many good recipes just through a simple search. If all else fails, I support you! Reach out to me on instagram or my contact page and I’d love to help you! I had a lot of love and support when going through this journey (and still do!) so it’s my time to give back and help you!
5. Time and Consistency
Big physical changes don’t happen overnight. That’s what makes this as difficult as it is. It’s hard to stay motivated if you don’t see a big change. However, what helped me was taking progress photos periodically. You see yourself every day. You won't notice your physical changes unless you look back on old pictures of yourself. What also helped me was noticing the small changes because they will start adding up. I noticed I could move easier, my pants were a little looser, I was enjoying veggies more and more. These small changes will start adding up and soon you will be impressed with what you are capable of now! You just have to remain consistent and know it will pay off in the long run.
Of course there is a lot more that goes into weight loss (i.e. making sure you’re in a caloric deficit, eating enough whole foods etc) but I wanted to touch more on the mental aspect of achieving your goals. The reason for that is everyone’s body is different. I’m not a nutritionist, I can’t prescribe a one size fits all diet. That doesn’t exist anyway. But what I can do is help you get your mind right. Once you have the mentality straight, everything else will follow. You may make mistakes, but you will also learn what works for you. So with that, I hope this blog helps you find the right headspace to achieve your dream body!